tang keete jana gambheer mamla hai. bartania di ik report anusar national media ne dassya ki laggda hai ki 40 pratishat to ziada naujavan tang keete jaan karke aatam-hattya kar lainde han.

 tang keete jaan da matlab sirf sareerak taur te nuksan karna hi nahi hunda. is vich heth likhiya galla vi ho sakdiya han. tang karan vale sirf maar-kutayi hi nahi karde, sago idda vi karde han.

•   bura-bhala kehna. 20 saal di seleen dassdi hai: “mai kade nahi bhull sakdi ki oh mainu kehrre puthe-sidhe naa lai ke bulaunde san atey kehrriya buriya galla kehnde san. oh mainu ehsas karaunde san ki mai kise kamm di nahi, koi mainu pyaar nahi karda atey mai nikammi ha. bura-bhala kehen nalo changa hunda ki oh mainu maarde-kuttde.”

•   door-door rehna. 18 saal di heli dassdi hai: “schoole bache mere to door-door rehen lagg paye. khana khaan vele oh mainu ehsas karaunde san ki ohna de table te jagah nahi hai jis karke mai ohna naal baith ke khana nahi kha sakdi si. mai poora saal rondi rehi atey ikkali khana khandi rehi.”

•   internet raahi tang karna. 14 saal da daniel dassda hai: “computer de do-chaar button dabaun naal tusi kise vi insaan nu badnam kar sakde ho. os di zindagi vi barbaad kar sakde ho. mai eh gall vadha-charha ke nahi keh reha, is tarha sach-much ho sakda hai!” internet raahi tang karan vich phone raahi puthiya-sidhiya photoa ja message bhejane vi shamal han.

 is de kujh kaaran han.

•   kise ne ohna nu tang keeta hunda hai. antonio naa da naujavan mannda hai: “mai apne haniya vallo tang keete jaan te bahut pareshan ho gaya. mai vi ohna vang doojya nu tang karan lagg pya taaki mere hani mainu pasand karan lagg pain. hun jado mai os same bare sochda ha, taa mainu ehsas hunda hai ki mai kinna galat keeta.”

•   ohna samne changiya misala nahi hundiya. jay magro ne apni kitab vich likhya: “bahut vari tang karan vale naujavan doojya naal udda pesh aaunde han . . . jidda oh apne maapya, vadde bhen-bhrava ja parivar de hor membra nu ik-dooje naal pesh aaunda dekhde han.”

•   oh idda pesh aaunde han, jive oh doojya nalo vadiya hon, par andro oh asurakhiat mehsoos karde han. barbra kaulauroso ne apni kitab vich likhya: “jehrre bache idda pesh aaunde han, jive oh doojya nalo vadiya hon, oh aksar apne dil vich apne doonghe zakhma nu lukaunde han atey apne aap nu nikamme samajhde han.”

•   jehrre doojya to door-door rehnde han. kujh naujavan jehrre doojya naal vadiya tareeke naal gall nahi kar sakde, oh apne aap nu doojya to alag kar lainde han. is tarha de naujavan nishana bann jande han.

•   jehrre naujavan doojya to alag nazar aaunde han. ohna naujavana nu nishana banaya janda hai jinha da pehrava, haar-shingar, nasal ja dharam doojya to alag hunda hai. nale jehrre naujavana vich koi kami hundi hai, os karke vi ohna da mazaak udaya janda hai.

•   jehrre naujavana vich himmat di kami hundi hai. tang karan valya nu pata lagg janda hai ki kinha vich himmat nahi hai. oh naujavan bahut aasani naal tang karan valya da nishana bann jande han jehrre darpok hunde han.

•   shant raho. keli naa di naujavan kudi dassdi hai: “tang karan vale tuhanu apne aap bare bura mehsoos karauna chahunde han. oh eh jaan-na chahunde han ki oh apne maksad vich kamyab hoye han ki nahi. je tusi shant rehnde ho, taa oh tuhanu tang karna chhadd dinde han.” bible kehndi hai: “budhvan apne krodh nu chuppke rok rakhda hai.”​—kahauta 29:11.

•   badla na lo. badla lain naal mushkal hall nahi hovegi, sago vadhegi. bible kehndi hai: “burayi de vatte burayi na karo.”​—romiya 12:17; kahauta 24:19.

•   jaan-bujh ke museebat mull na lo. jinna ho sake, ohna lokaa to door raho jo tuhanu tang karde han. nale ohna halaata to door raho jithe tuhade layi mushkal kharhi ho sakdi hai.​—kahauta 22:3.

•   vadiya tareeke naal javab dyo jis bare ohna ne sochya vi na hove. bible kehndi hai: “naram javab gusse nu thanda kar dinda hai.”​—kahauta 15:1.

•   hase-mazaak vich gall pa lo. misal layi, je tuhanu mote hon karke koi tang karda hai, taa tusi mazaak vich keh sakde ho, “kyoki mai khande-peende ghar da ha.”

•   utho chale jao. 19 saala di nora kehndi hai: “je tusi chupp rehnde ho, taa is to pata laggda hai ki tusi samajhdar ho atey tang karan vale nalo ziada himmat vale ho. nale eh vi pata laggda hai ki tuhanu apne virodhi nalo apne aap te ziada kaabu rakhna aaunda hai.”

•   apni himmat vadhao. reeta naa di kudi dassdi hai: “tang karan valya nu pata lagg janda hai ki tusi kado ghabraye hoye ho atey oh shayad ihna maukya te tuhadi himmat ghataun di koshish karan.”

•   kise naal gall karo. ik sarvekhan anusar on-line tang karan valya de shikar bannan vale naujavana vicho adhe to ziada naujavan dassde hi nahi han ki ohna naal kee ho reha hai. shayad oh (khaas karke munde) sharam mehsoos karde han ja badla lain to darde han. par yaad rakho ki tang karan vale ikkalya nu hi shikar banaunde han. kise naal gall karan naal ihna nu rokya ja sakda hai.