bhave bahut sare pati-patni ikatthe hi kyo na hon, par fir vi ohna nu ik-dooje naal gall karni aukhi laggdi hai. is de kee kaaran han?

•  ikatthe, par door-door—kyo?

•  tusi kee kar sakde ho?

•  jode kee kehnde han?

•  charcha karan da tareeka

•   thakavat

   “jado sadde kol ik-dooje naal gall karan da sama hunda hai, taa os vele ja taa mai thakki hundi hai ja mera pati. jado mai thakki hundi ha, taa mainu chhotiya-chhotiya galla karke hi khijh charh jandi hai. is layi os same changa hunda hai ki gall karan nalo asi ti.vi. hi dekh layiye.”—anna.

•   dhyaan bhatkaun valiya electronic cheeza

   “soshal media atey online manoranjan karan karke kaafi sama barbaad ho sakda hai. pati-patni ghantya-badhi ihna cheeza ’te sama la dinde han jis karke oh apne jeevan saathi naal bilkul vi gall nahi karde. oh dove kamre vich hunde hoye vi na hoya varge hunde han.”—kaithreen.

•   vakho-vakhre shauk

   “mera pati kamm to vapas aa ke aksar apna sama apne shauk poore karan ’te laaunda hai. oh bahut mehnat karda hai te mainu laggda hai ki os nu apne layi sama chaheeda hai. par mera dil karda hai ki asi ziada sama ikatthya bitayiye.”—jen.

•   kamm

   “electronic cheeza hon karke ho sakda hai ki asi ghar aa ke vi daftar da kamm karde rahiye. mai kayi vaar dekhya hai ki mainu jo sama apni patni naal bitauna chaheeda hai, os same mai email ja message da javab dinda hai.”—mark.

•   tuhanu apne jeevan saathi naal kade-kade nahi, sago aksar sama bitaun di lorr hai.

   bible da asool: “tusi ziada zaroori galla nu dhyaan vich rakho.”—filippiya 1:10.

   zara socho: kee tuhade kamma to pata laggda hai ki tusi apne viah nu apne kamm atey shauka to ziada ehem samajhde ho? kee tusi odo hi apne jeevan saathi naal sama bitaunde ho jado tuhade kol hor kujh karan nu nahi hunda?

   sujhaa: har roz apne saathi naal bina dhyaan bhatkaye sama bitaun da palain banao.

   “mainu odo bahut khushi hundi hai jado mera pati ikatthe sama bitaun da palain banaunda hai. is to mainu pata laggda hai ki oh mainu bahut pyaar karda hai atey os nu mere naal sama bitauna changa laggda hai. is karke mera os nu hor vi pyaar karan da dil karda hai.”—anna.

•   electronic cheeza karke apna dhyaan na bhatkan dyo.

   bible da asool: “har cheez da ik sama hai.”—updeshak di kitab 3:1.

   zara socho: jado tusi apne saathi naal gall kar rahe hunde ho, taa kinni ku vaar idda hunda hai ki viche message aaun ’te tusi apna dhyaan bhatkan dinde ho?

   sujhaa: har roz ghatto-ghatt ik vaar ikatthe khana zaroor khao atey apne phone apne kol na rakho. khana khandya tuhade kol din bhar diya galla sanjhiya karan da mauka hunda hai.

•   jado mumkin hove, mil ke khareeddari karo ja ghar de kamm karo.

   bible da asool: “ik nalo do change hunde han kyoki ohna nu apni sakht mehnat da vadiya inaam milda hai.”—updeshak di kitab 4:9, footnote.

   zara socho: tusi te tuhada saathi kinni ku vaar koi kamm karan ja parivar layi cheeza lain layi ikkale-ikkale jande ho?

   sujhaa: mil ke kamm karo atey ik-dooje di madad karo bhave ki oh kamm karan layi do janya di lorr na vi hove.

   “sauda khareedan, bhande dhon atey kappdya diya tehya laun nu kamm nahi, sago ik-dooje naal sama bitaun de mauke samjho.”—neena.

•   apne saathi to haddo vadh umeeda na rakho.

   bible da asool: “sarya samne apni samajhdari da saboot dyo.”—filippiya 4:5.

   zara socho: tusi kive dikha sakde ho ki tusi apne jeevan saathi to haddo vadh umeeda nahi rakhde?

   sujhaa: ik-dooje diya lorra samjhan layi gall karo. faisla karo ki tusi dove jane apna sama kive bitaoge taaki tuhanu dova nu khushi mile.

   “mera pati chheti nahi thakkda, par maarri sehat karke mai chheti thakk jandi ha. mai aksar apne pati nu bahar jaan atey oh kamm karan nu kehndi ha jis to os nu khushi mildi hai te mai ghar rehndi ha. jado oh kasrat vagaira karan janda hai, odo mai ghar reh ke aaram kardi ha. sanu changa laggda hai ki asi dove oh kar sakde ha jo sanu karan di lorr hai.”—daniela.

 pehla, tusi dove jane heth likhe savaala ’te soch-vichaar kar sakde ho. fir mil ke tusi gallbaat kar sakde ho.

•    kee tuhanu laggda hai ki tusi te tuhada saathi kaafi sama ikatthya guzarde ho?

•    tuhade jeevan saathi ne tuhade naal sama bitaun layi kehrriya koshisha keetiya han jis karke tusi os di tareef kar sakde ho?

•    kehrriya galla vich tusi chahunde ho ki tuhada jeevan saathi sudhar kare?

•    tusi kinni ku vaar phone ja tablet karke apna dhyaan bhatkan dinde ho jis karke tusi apne saathi di gall dhyaan naal nahi sunde?

•    tusi kive dikha sakde ho ki tusi apne jeevan saathi to haddo vadh umeeda nahi rakhde?

•    is hafte tusi kehrriya tabdeeliya kar sakde ho taaki tusi bina dhyaan bhatkaye ikatthe sama bita sako?